How do you discover your real purpose in your life?
I am not talking about your major that you are studying in school, your job, your daily responsibilities, or even your long-term goals.
I mean the real reason you are here at all. The very reason you exist! Perhaps you are an annihilistic
Perhaps you are a rather a nihilistic person who doesn’t believe your have a purpose and you think that life has no meaning.
It doesn’t matter.
Not believing that you have a purpose won’t prevent you from discovering it.
Just as the lack of belief in gravity won’t prevent you from tripping.
What all the lack of belief will do is it will take longer for you to discover your purpose. So, if you are one of these people, just change the title of this article from twenty to forty to sixty if you are really stubborn.
Most likely, though, if you don’t believe that you have a purpose, you won’t believe in anything that I am sharing with you anyway. But even so, what’s the risk of investing an hour on this just in case.
Here is a story about Bruce Lee which sets the stage for this exercise.
A master martial artist asked Bruce to teach him everything he knew about martial arts. Bruce held up two cups, both filled with liquid.
“The first cup”, said Bruce, “represents all your knowledge about martial arts. The second cup represents my knowledge about martial arts. If you want to fill your cup with my knowledge, you must first empty your cup of your knowledge.”
If you want to discover your true purpose in your life, you must first empty your mind with all the false purposes you had been taught, including the idea that you may have no purpose at all.
So, how to discover the purpose of your life?
There are many ways to do this. Some of them fairly involved. Here’s one of the simplest ways that anyone can do.
The more opened you are at this process, the more you can expect it to work, and the faster it will work for you. but not being opened to it or having doubts about it or thinking that it is entirely idiotic and meaningless waste of time won’t prevent it to work as long as you stick with it. Again, it will just take longer for it to converge.
Here’s what to do:
One, pull up a blank sheet of paper and a pen/pencil, or open up a word processor on your computer where you can type. I prefer the former even it takes me a longer time for me to write because taking notes with a pen and paper sticks better to my brain.
Two, right at the top, write “What is the true purpose of my life?”
Three, write an answer, any answer that pops into your head. It doesn’t have to be a complete sentence. A short phrase is fine.
Four, repeat Step Three until you write the answer that makes you cry. this is your purpose.
It doesn’t matter if you are a student in primary school/secondary school/college/university, or a counselor, or an engineer, or a part-time promoter in a department store, or a burger flipper in the school cafeteria.
For some people, this exercise will make perfect sense. To others, it will seem utterly stupid.
Usually, it takes about 15 – 20 minutes to clear your head of all the cluttered and all the social conditioning about what you think your purpose of your life is. The false answers will come from your mind and your memories. But when the true answer finally arrives, you will feel like it’s coming from a different source entirely.
For those who are very entrenched, and have lower awareness of thinking, it will take a lot longer for you to get all the false answers out, possible about an hour. But if you persist, after a hundred or two hundred, and maybe even five hundred answers, you will be struck by the answer that causes you a surge of emotion, the answer that breaks you.
If you have never done this, it may very well sound silly to you, so let it seem silly. Do it anyway!
As you go through this process, some of your answers will be very similar. You may even re-list previous answers, then you might head off on a new tangent and generate ten or twenty more answers. That’s fine. You can list any answer that pops into your head as long as you just keep writing.
At some point during the process, typically after about fifty to a hundred answers, you may want to quit and just can’t see it converging; you may feel the urge of getting up and make an excuse to do something else, that’s normal. Push pass through this resistance and just keep writing. The feeling of resistance will eventually pass. You may also discover a few answers that seem to give you mini-surge of emotion, but they don’t quite make you cry, just a bit off. Highlight those answers as you go along, so you can come back later and generate new permutations. Each reflects a piece of your purpose but they aren’t complete. When
You may also discover a few answers that seem to give you mini-surge of emotion, but they don’t quite make you cry, just a bit off. Highlight those answers as you go along, so you can come back later and generate new permutations. Each reflects a piece of your purpose but they aren’t complete. When you start getting this kind of answers, you are just getting warmed, keep going. It is important to do this alone with no interruptions.
It is important to do this alone with no interruptions. If you are a nihilist, go ahead and start with an answer, “I don’t have a purpose” or “Life is meaningless” and take it from there.
If you keep at it, you will still eventually converge.
When I did this exercise, it took me about 28 minutes and I reached my final answer at step 122. Partial pieces of the answer and mini-surges appeared at step 17, step 25, step 48, step 89, etc. and all of them made sense when they all converged to step 122. I felt the feeling of resistance, wanting to get up and do something else, expecting the process to fail, feeling very impatient and even irritated when I reached at about step 50. At around step 80, I took a two minutes break, closed my eyes, relaxed, cleared my mind to focus on the intention for the answer to come to me. This was helpful as the answers I received after the break began to have clarity.
Here is my final answer:
“To live consciously and courageously, to resonate with love and compassion, to see things as they are, to be indifferent with attachment and aversion, to represent the idea of possibilities and abundance, to inspire others to live a fulfilling life, and to leave this world in peace.”
When you find your own unique answer to the question of why you are here, you will feel that it resonates with you deeply. The words will seem to have a special energy to you and you will feel the energy when you read them.
Discovering your purpose is the easy part, the hard part of it is keeping up with it an a daily basis and working on yourself until the point where you become that purpose.
If you are inclined to ask why this process works, just put this question aside until you have successfully completed it. Once you have done that, you will probably have an answer yourself why it worked. Chances are if you ask ten different people why this works, people who successfully completed the exercise, you will get ten different answers, all filtered through their ten individual belief systems, and each one of them contains its own reflection of truth. Obviously, this process won’t work if you quit before convergence. I estimate that 80 – 90% of people should achieve convergence in less than an hour. If you are really entrenched in your beliefs and resistance in the process, maybe it will take you five sessions and three hours. But I suspect that people will simply quit earlier, like within the first fifteen minutes, or wouldn’t even attempt at all. But, if you are drawn to click on the link that leads to this article, and haven’t been inclined to abandon your life yet, that’s is doubtful that you will follow this group.
Give it a shot!
At the very least you will learn one or two things about yourself and the true purpose of your life. Otherwise, you can go ahead and unsubscribe yourself from this magazine
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“When a man does not know what harbor he is making for, no wind is the right wind.” ~ Seneca